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A post from the series Pinay, Shine! 15 Ways to Connect to Liwanag and Shine. Available exclusively to

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…what we need is not division, but it’s love and wisdom and compassion toward one another. — Robert Kennedy

Unsubscribe from divisiveness. –…What we need is not division, but it’s love and wisdom and compassion toward one another. — Robert Kennedy

“Every kingdom divided against itself is laid waste, and a divided household falls. Luke 11:17 

One of the ways to connect to Liwanag (inner Light) and to shine brighter is by embracing a universal wisdom expressed by Filipinos, it is knowing deeply that you are kapwa, kin and connected to others. Pakikipagkapwa is the deep awareness of Sacred Interconnection with all creation. And in order to practice pakikipagkapwa one must unsubscribe from man-made world views of divisiveness and hierarchies that causes one to separate one’s heart and soul from another. In a way, it can sound scary. Or ludicrous. It takes trust and courage to be able to do this. But the trick is to set aside the painful illusions of the world, and to see, with your inner vision, the Truth that is at the center of things.

“There is a window from one Heart to another Heart.” ~Rumi

Kapwa is the Filipino word and value of seeing one’s self in others. Kapwa tao is literally translated as “fellow human” but it’s complete meaning in the Filipino language is “respect for another human.” This is a deep respect whereby you see your fellow humans as equal to you. You see their Light, their soul and you do not, you cannot look down upon them, hurt them, ignore their basic needs or exploit them. If you haven’t already, I encourage you to question and see how belief systems based on hierarchies and superiority are the cause of why a person or group of persons are condescending over another and treat others as inferior or even repulsive. And I invite you to unsubscribe from divisiveness.

“Divisions in mankind are unnatural. They are man made.” ― D’Andre Lampkin

I am going to get a little deep in the next few paragraphs, but I promise, the easy stuff will come back at the end.   On a very large collective scale, belief systems based on hierarchies and superiority cause apathetic segregation, violent prejudice, economic exploitation, injustices, and war. Not shiny. Not from Liwanag or Light.   Cliques and snobbery, caste systems and class-consciousness, racism and ethnocentrism, religious bias and oil wars, are all man made responses based on survival, Ego and fear.  Anything based on ego and fear is not from spirit or Liwanag.   And, simply said, just isn’t shiny.

“Patriarchal institutions and imperialism operate from a worldview based on a hierarchal order that establishes status and competition and justifies oppression and exploitation… it is based on external power and is, in fact, the exact opposite of what the deepest values of Filipino ancestry are—that of loob and kapwa (connection and oneness with others). Filipinos today must therefore realize that the antithesis of patriarchy’s worldview is the Filipino consciousness of pakikipagkapwa… based on awarenes of lakas ng loob (internal power) and spirit and how they give way to healing, compassion, and wholeness.”

—Perla Daly, 2004. “NewFilipina and the Rise of CyberPinayism,” in Melinda de Jesus’ anthology of essays, Pinay Power: Peminist Critical Theory


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Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures. — Albert Einstein.

As a Filipino value Pakikipagkapwa indicates not only respect for another’s humanity and of their equal rights, but also sustains that we are all connected through something sacred within all of us, our Liwanag sa kalooban (Lights within our deepest selves). The thing is… unsubscribing to divisiveness does basically two things. It takes away any feelings of inferiority you may feel because of your human shell.  It dissolves arrogant philosophies of superiority, based on ego and fear, that causes one to dis others, to mistreat other people, even to exploit and abuse them. When a Filipina embodies pakikipagkapwa she is connecting in deep way to what makes her shine. Virgilio G. Enriquez, Ama ng Sikolohiyang Pilipino (Father of Philippine Psychology) says:

Pakikipagkapwa is much deeper and profound in its implications. It also means accepting and dealing with the other person as an equal. The company president and the clerk in the office may not have an equivalent role, status, or income, but the Filipino way demands and implements the idea that they treat one another as fellow humans (kapwa tao). This means a regard for the dignity and being of others… Pakikipagkapwa is definitely inconsistent with exploitative human transactions.”

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“… if your goals and dreams benefit others, as well as yourself, then the vibration of your intention resonates at a higher frequency… we really ARE all connected, your commitment to others is also a commitment to yourself.” —Jack Canfield

So one must unsubscribe from divisiveness and notions of superiority and see all her fellow humans as equal to her in spirit, soul and Liwanag.   Enriquez also says, “One argument for the greater importance of kapwa in Filipino thought and behavior is the shock or disbelief that the Filipino registers when confronted with one who is supposedly walang kapwa tao or without respect for another human being… if one is walang kapwa tao, people say… napakasama na niya, He is the worst.”

The humanitarian Nelson Mandela says “that we are human only through the humanity of other human beings.”

The Okinawans say “Ichariba chode” which means “when you meet somebody you are immediately brother and sister, even if you have never met before. You do no harm to each other and have compassion for each other.”   These thoughts and attitudes are from deep Loob and Liwanag. If you embody them you will shine.

Pakikipagkapwa connects you to your light and others!

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Omehra Sigahne is a life coach, multimedia artist, and leader who collaborates with artists, writers, healers, activists, professionals and organizers around the world in digital collage, poetry, photography, painting, online communities, publications, workshops, conferencesand organizations.

Omehra is also known as Inday Perla, Perla Daly, BagongPinay and NewFilipina.

She has been publishing websites to empower Filipinos for 20 years. More about her art, blogs, events, publishing and organizations at BagongPinay.

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  1. Indigenous Filipinos once practiced headhunting. How can that be respecting another human you killed and whose head you cut off and took home with you. Really? Strangely enough to our modern, westernized minds here’s an quick insight: these headhunters practiced a deep respect for the person’s soul even after they killed them and took their head. They honored that person’s head and soul for now adding to their own mana or power. Very strange way to my mind of connecting with another being and their soul, but I seek to understand on another level.

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