Learn. Change. Grow. | Pinay.com
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The whole point of life is Love, and that you learn, change, & grow…
to expand into a stunning, bright light.
Be open and receptive to learning new things from others, from your own experiences, from trial and error.
It’s okay to make mistakes
Don’t be afraid to make mistakes or to come upon failure. You can be braver about taking risks when you begin to see your mistakes and failures as openings to learning something about yourself, about Life.
There are no mistakes, only lessons.
—Cherie Carter-Scott, Life is a Game, These are the Rules
Life is all about learning
In the book Life is a Game, These are the Rules I read that life can be likened to a game that has to mostly do with Life’s lessons. 15 years ago it became one of my favorite books because it helped me identify and get beyond my blocks and blinders.
To the right I share the ten rules from that book. Take note that 4 out of 10 of the rules are about lessons:
Rule #2, You will be presented with lessons.
Rule # 3, There are no mistakes, only lessons.
Rule #4, A lesson is repeated until learned.
And Rule #5, Learning does not end.
One begins to wonder, why would this game of life be mostly about lessons. John Keats answers this:
“Do you not see how necessary
a world of pains and troubles is
to school an intelligence
and make it a soul?”
This is truly my experience. For all my efforts to make art and write about what brings me joy, what expands my mind and my heart, my life is still interwoven with pains and troubles with those I love, with concerns and worries about those I love, and into the bittersweet and the blissfulness of loving them, experiencing them in my life.
A sense of humor helps… Love and compassion help… Being flexible about life helps… As I learn to be with them. And to let go and let those I love live their own lives and lessons. It helps me with my own lessons.
Being in the space of learning
Observe if you’re rigid and dogmatic, so stuck on doing things one way, your way or whoever’s way. Dogmatic, know-it-all attitudes can put you in the place of hard, unforgiving-ness. In this place you will find it not only hard to forgive people of their mistakes, you will also find it hard to forgive yourself your own mistakes.
I can be such a perfectionist. I know that this is a source of stress, pain, and anxiety. Ahimsa or non-violence is a sanskrit word and a yoga practice of compassion that helps me deeply through the years. This is one of my greatest lessons that I am learning and re-learning. Compassion helps me create a space inside for learning. I need to practice compassion so that I can be forgiving of others’ and my own mistakes.
Compassion also nurtures courage. Have compassion, nurture courage, forge forward, take risks, make mistakes and learn from them.
When you are in the space of learning, it becomes easier to forgive others and support them in the course of their learning too. Even if you can’t see results in front of you, trust that a life of learning is happening for others too.
Let go and be in the cosmic flow
Just think, the University of Life is bigger than all of us. In it, we are each pinpoints of light within a galaxy of souls, not seeing, not aware of the combined brilliance of all our lives and our efforts living on Earth.
The world is changing. The ages are moving on. The galaxies and Universes are expanding, even as I write this… even as you read this. We are each little spokes of humanity stuck on a great wheel of progression moving through the eons, through time and space, witnessed by the stars and angels.
Sometimes you just have to let go and allow something new to happen within you in order to flow with the changes that are happening within cosmic laws.
Dogma and inflexibility puts you in an egotistical, proud and arrogant place and keeps you out of the space of learning. Conquer your ego, and leave dogma behind so that you can come back into a space for learning and progressing.
Try to not take your self so seriously and try to be flexibile so you can be in the openness of “not knowing” and in the space of learning. Learning is why you were born in the first place. This is where you need to be to move with the cosmic forces of evolution.
Can you see, this means that you also have to let go of control? It’s the ego that needs to control the way other people are, the way they are with you or the things and events that come your way.
Innate openness in Filipino beliefs
I think that Filipinos have this Bahala na/Bathala nawa gem within their culture. Bahala na roughly translates to “God is here, God is now” and Bathala nawa translates to “God wills it.” The Filipino can transition the old, lower vibration of the fatalistic mindset when saying “Bahala na” by using it in a progressive mindset to create an opening for possibilities.
And so both the mantra Bathala nawa and the saying Bahala na can create circumstances of letting go of control, opening up the space for “not knowing”, for experiencing the unexpected and new.
Infuse this openness into your being and your learning. Let it facilitate the rediscovery of what one already knows at the level of one’s soul, at the depth of Liwanag, of one’s being that is a spark of God.
“Learning is finding out what you already know.” —Jonathan Livingston seagull, Richard Bach.
Say to yourself:
I open news doors to life.
I rejoice in what I have, and I know that fresh new experiences are always ahead.
I greet the new with open arms.
I trust life to be wonderful.
—Louise L. Hay, Power Thoughts
What I like most about change is that it’s a synonym for “hope.” If you are taking a risk, what you are really saying is, “I believe in tomorrow and I will be part of it.”
Be ready for change
We each need to accept where we are in any given moment. And when a life lesson takes place we must make a choice whether or not we are willing to let a change take place within ourselves and within our life.
Only you know when the time for change has come. And when you know it’s time then flow into the process of positive change.
“If what you’re doing isn’t working… do anything else.” —unknown
Sometimes in order to change, we simply need to be sick and tired of being sick and tired.—joyofmom.com
A bad attitude is like a flat tire. You can’t go anywhere until you change it. —unknown
So if you have began to challenge what isn’t working for you anymore, you need to answer for yourself what it might be— is it your circumstances? Relationships? Your old beliefs? Your attitude? Habits?
Take a moment then for self reflection—to figure out what you can change within yourself, in order to get out of a situation that is just not working for you any more… that doesn’t help you grow… that doesn’t make you happy.
And then it’s time for action. Change how you respond to things, how you go about things.
Our response to any circumstance has the strength to alter the circumstances. For example, you cannot change the people you are with day to day but you sure can change how you respond to them and you sure can change if you ever have to be with them ever again.
Change yourself and your world will transform accordingly. —Sage Yogaswami
You just can’t complain about and blame others for what doesn’t work for you, what isn’t making you happy or not helping you grow. You can’t just fight the old that doesn’t work for you. You also have to figure out what DOES work for you and you’re going to have to do something to make it all happen.
The secret of change is to focus all your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new. —Socrates
You can stay stuck where you are, not learn and not change. And where would that leave you? What would you have to lose?
I know it’s not easy. It’s hard. It can be really hard. But envision how much better things could be. Laurie Wallin says: “What if the change you’re avoiding is the one that gives you wings.”
And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ― Anaïs Nin
And so I invite you to consider how you have grown in the past and how you can continue to grow and to find new ways to shine.
Because life is not just about surviving, it’s also about thriving.
You have to make a choice to not only survive as a human being but also to thrive as a human being. In order to do that you must advance your soul’s role in your life—gain wisdom, patience, become more kind and compassionate— and allow the blossoming of your life like the enlightened saints of legend… letting each petal of your brilliant soul open up, one by one, like the thousand-petal lotus of Buddha lore.
Growing should mean you’re becoming a new person, leveling up and beyond where you started from… and that’s the whole point of this so-called game of life, don’t you think?
You are learning, changing, growing, blossoming… becoming the person you were meant to be.
Consider that humanity itself is in a collective and ancient learning process in the universal school of life… that your progress aids and abets the progress of not only yourself, but also of your family… and that of humanity’s existence in the Universe… and even if our minds can’t conceive of it, our inner beings know that we are part of a collective cosmic blossoming within an incomprehensible span of eternity.
We don’t have to engage in grand, heroic actions to participate in the process of change. Small acts, when multiplied by millions of people, can transform the world. —Howard Zinn
“The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself.” ― C. JoyBell C.
Yes, throw yourself wide open to Life. Take courage, take risks and bare your light to the world, to the Sun and stars.
Learn, change and grow. And shine brighter.
Have faith that things are happening the way that they are supposed to happen, that you are growing at the rate that’s right for you. And that unexpected, great things are waiting for you around the cosmic corner.
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Omehra is also known as Inday Perla, Perla Daly, BagongPinay and NewFilipina.
She has been publishing websites to empower Filipinos for 20 years. More about her art, blogs, events, publishing and organizations at BagongPinay.